Wednesday, January 13, 2010

They take decisions

Sooner or later, today or tomorrow, right here and later after people have to make their choices and they have to take decisions about this and that. It is not that easy for people to make a choice and to take a decision about something. Sure, it never takes too much time for people to make their decisions about food or clothes or something that is not really important. Though, it always takes a lot of people when they have to make their decisions about something that really matters and something that can change their lives. Actually, though decisions are like tests for people. The tough decision is the best thing that identifies a person. People can talk a lot; it is not that hard to say a couple of words or a couple of hundreds of words, though it is rather hard to follow those words. So, when making taking decisions people show their real selves. When they have to make a choice between something that matters for them and something that matters for others – there they are real. Such choice are tough and true and those are sincere.

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Keeping silence

When we take something as an offence we usually have hurts feelings. We may be angry with those people that offended us and we may feel some other feelings about them. We are free to feel and to do anything we want, though the only thing we should never do in case we are offended is keeping silence. In case there is something you take as an offence you have to share these feelings with a person that offended you. See, sometimes it happens that people do or say things accidentally and they don’t want to hurt us. And they don’t recognize their actions or words as the offensive ones. And that is why it is so hard for them to realize what is wrong and why you don’t want to talk to them. You should never keep those feelings for you only and you should never keep silence. You have to talk with those people that hurt you and explain them that they were wrong, talk to people and they will talk to you and in this case you will find the way out and people will never do so again and they will never hurt you that way again.

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Monday, January 11, 2010

The first impression

People say “beware of first impression because it is the right one” and sometimes they are right but in most cases they are wrong. Forts impression about people is just an emotion we have about one or another event or word we hear from people. And there is no way for people to learn something about a person according to one word or one action. See, people are like oceans and what you see on the surface usually means nothing and in order to realize the nature of this kind you have to deep in it. First impression may be the whole truth about a person but you should never make your diagnosis about a person according to first impression. See, there are people who seem like freaks and when you see them you know there is nothing good in this person and you think that it is better to stay away from him or her. But, if you are lucky enough and you keep this person in your life a day will come when you realize you were wrong. A day comes when this shaggy freak appears to be the only person who can sacrifice his or her free time if you need help.

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Blaming everything on everyone

We make mistakes sometimes and there are consequences these mistakes are pregnant with. We make mistakes and a day come when we have to answer for those mistakes we have done. Sure, we have to answer for everything we did wrong and it is like a punishment life has for us and it is a fair punishment. Though, there are people who never own up their mistakes and so they think that bad things happen to them unfairly. They blame other people fir everything bad they have in their lives and they blame other people for that pain they feel. They are blind people and they are egoistic people who live like that. They can’t see their mistakes and they think they are right whatever they do and that is why they need someone else to blame for everything. They will never confess they are scoundrels and they did wrong, they prefer to recognize people around them as scoundrels. And these people will never get rid of pain and punishment in their lives, they will never stop crying because they will never stop making mistakes.

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Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Selfish people

We all find people annoying from time to time and it can be difficult to deal with annoying people. But the reality is that we often find people annoying when they trigger something in us. We find people annoying when we see something (or someone) from our past or present that is reflected in their behavior. We also find people annoying when we allow them to inflict their opinions on us and we believe those opinions to be true. When someone questions our abilities or someone thinks we don’t quite have it all together, we find them annoying because deep down we believe this is true. People are all just as insecure and hung up as we are. Some people simply hide it better or they hide it more forcefully through their opinions of others and their attitudes. It can feel like they are demeaning when in fact they are insecure. It can feel as though the are judgmental when they are really scared about looking bad. When we deal with people on an honest level, even if we are just honest with ourselves, we take the power of other people away. When we are able to deal with our own feelings and our own hang ups we can deal with the effects other people have on us much more effectively. People are basically all the same, as everyone wants acceptance and a feeling of accomplishment in the world. That’s exactly what makes dealing with people so frustrating.
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Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Past People

Past people have obviously meant something to us at one time or another. When we no longer have people in our life, we tend to revisit the memories and evaluate the circumstances in which we parted ways. There is nothing wrong with this, and we can learn much from the people we once loved and left behind. The relationships we have had with people before can help us learn how to have more effective and loving relationships with people we love in the present.

Everyone is subject to making a few mistakes, especially when it comes to learning how to navigate relationships. We are so quick to wipe away the memories of past loves and friends that are no longer with us because we were hurt on some level when the relationship terminated. But we don’t have to respond that way, given a little time and distance, we can call upon those people in our hearts to be more effective people now. It’s called living and learning.

It is unfortunate that we have all learned that the past should be thrown away with yesterday’s recycling because those previous relationships offer us a world of sanctuary and education, even when there is still a sting from the loss. Whether it was your mistake or their mistake that ended the friendship or loving partnership, those people still helped sculpt much of whom you are now and those people can still touch your heart from a distant past.

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Thursday, February 19, 2009

People

People are very different. They are careless, idealistic, sentimental, selfish, shy, and reliable. But everyone is individual. You won’t see two absolutely equal persons. Even twins are different. And it’s great, because you can choose anyone to communicate with and maybe even to spend the whole life.
But different people require different behavior. With some of them you should be polite and follow the rules, others would better like you calling them ‘guy’ and coming late at night without an invitation. Of course, it doesn’t matter that you should be one person for these and another for those, be yourself. You should just look at every man, and don’t stop to wonder - everyone has his own good qualities.
Don’t forget that you are a miracle too and no one knows you really - what you think and what you will do the next second. Don’t worry and don’t be nervous - everyone is a human and he’s just trying to communicate with you.
It’s very important to choose right people to be with - because a lot depends on it, - your mood, your behavior, hobbies and, at last, your life.
And what people do you want to see near you?
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Tuesday, February 3, 2009

People, who like to generalize

Once carried out training for the pharmaceutical company. Sales Director outlined the case that one of the regional managers, reporting a staff member, insisted in his speech to the indictment that the officer “uncommunicative.” It was his label, which he overhang at the officer.
Another example. There is such that the person to whom you something to tell, not having him listened makes super withdrawal from all thee above, as follows:
- Well, in general, it is understandable. This is called (and more offends are some words which, in your opinion, do not fully reflects the essence described by you, or simply not relevant to this)
In such cases, you can specify what you intended to do, to talk again. But as a rule, thinking this person works in a way that it is simply vital to summarize all that you tell, by hanging a “shortcut” to save this information (under this name) in his memory bank. And he was not worried about what the world can not be divided into black and white, he does not care that your information Summing he missed a lot of detail. It does not matter to him.
Such people often superficial, and few are able to get into the details of the processes. So they do not just learn something new, because, “labels” they put on based on their actual experiences, finding him to confirm it.
This feature, of course, is neither good nor bad. It is simply a feature that can meet different people in your life. Pay attention to it - this will give you the key is to communicate with them.
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